Knowing Him

To Facebook Or Not To Facebook?

At the end of July, I decided to take a month off Facebook

My reasoning behind doing this was simply to see how it effected my every day life; I found the results were very much according to my expectations.

Here was some of my motivation behind this little sabbatical:

1 – The Consuming of My Time and Mind

Not only was Facebook stealing my time, it had captured my thoughts. Even when I wasn’t on it, I was thinking about what I had seen while I was.

2 – The Facade

Facebook is full of manufactured identities. People can pick and choose the areas of their life they want the social media world to see.

3 – Careless Communication

So often, people communicate very differently when hidden behind a keyboard than they would face to face.

4 – The Ads

Enough said.

5 – The Illusion of Relationships

Real relationships don’t exist within the walls of Facebook.

6 – Approval Addiction

I battle with being a people please-er – and not the healthy kind. It’s very easy for me to fall into the net of caring too much what people think about me. Facebook is a great way to entangle me in this propensity.

I admit that I missed it – for about the first week. I actually found myself habitually checking my phone for notifications….pretty sad.

After that, I started noticing that without the Facebook newsfeed curiosity tugging at my mind, it was much easier to keep my thoughts fixed where I wanted them – heavenward. So I started not missing it so much. By the end of the month I concluded that I would almost rather do without it.

However, I also found that there are certain aspects I really appreciate:

1 – Staying connected with people

Real, face-to-face, meaningful, communication is absolutely the best way we nurture our relationships. But let’s be honest, we live in a world that is very fast-paced and it’s impossible to meet up, sit down and have extended conversations with everyone! I’m happy if I can do this daily with my husband. Facebook is great in that it does help in keeping us connected with each other.

2 – Promotion

I work as the secretary at my church. Facebook is an awesome resource to quickly get information out to the masses! It’s also great in this purpose for all our personal needs as well. Why mail invitations when we can just make a FB event? 🙂

3 – Encouragement

It’s also a great instrument for encouragement. I have many friends who are always posting Scriptures or quotes that are geared to motivate and inspire. Some people from my church have a group set up where we can share prayer requests.

So, back to the question: To Facebook? Or not to Facebook?

Like many other things in life it’s all about balance. I won’t be deleting my account – at least not at this time 🙂 But, I will be continuing with limitations:

1. I will only be on once a day…

2. ..and try to keep it at about 30 min.

3. It will no longer be an app on my phone.

By the way, have you noticed all the permissions the FB app requires?!?

facebook permissions

12 thoughts on “To Facebook Or Not To Facebook?

  1. You have done what I decided to do – balance my facebook time. Many long distance friends no longer email and stay in touch via facebook with pictures and what not. So it is still my main source of keeping up with those I hold I dear. Like you I also use facebook for my job as admin assistant to the our Presbytery (middle governing body of the PCUSA), it is a great tool to keep the other churches informed and to get out what our churches are doing to hopefully someone who is looking for a church in their area. There are many good things about facebook, just like the internet. It is when we become addicted, use if for bad things instead of good that it soon becomes a sin in our lives. Amazing at how much more time we have to pursue Godly things! I prayed for more time in my day and God gave it to me! 😉

    1. Thanks, Elisha! It was pretty hard for that first week. But that just shows how unaware I was of how much I ‘needed’ it. Hope you have a great week as well 🙂

  2. So many times I have wanted to delete mine, but then I would truly miss keeping up with people that I wouldn’t be able to otherwise. I’ve got to the point where I only check it once daily to see if I have messages or sign on to send a message.

    1. If it wasn’t for my facebook followers for my blog and the fact that I use it as a resource for my job (church admin asst.) I probably would just delete mine. That thought has definitely crossed my mind. But, it is nice to be able to keep up with people we don’t get to see often. 🙂

  3. We tried FB and has a page as a couple for both Bryan and I together. We didn’t feel like we were supposed to continue just 2 weeks after signing up. So, after only merely being there for a couple weeks, we were relieved as we got rid of the page. There are so many reasons that FB can be a distraction and venue for the *nemy to work (and I know what you could say…God can work as well and I agree, but we must neverteless examine our own hearts and desires as we make the decision if it is something worth our time, energy and emotions), but what turns me off about it is that it is focused on THE SELF…on news, gossip and people’s triumphs and glories….a bragging site that puts people down, miscommunicates and again allows society’s pressure and agenda to be given to young children and kids. An agenda full to the brim of sexual imodesty, living for your own pleasure, gaining wealth and speaking your mind and being tolerant and just going with the flow of life. Being subjected to the adds and manifacturede identities….perverts and such is just something I feel like is not neccesary to open ourselves up to. There is so much junk coming at us in everyday life already, we just don’t need more mess in the way…more “noise” if you will….to distract us from hearing the ONE VOICE that truly matters. When we fill our lives up with so many things…it really DOES get harder to hear God’s Voice, and during this time and age, we must STRAIN and SEEK HIS VOICE WITH ALL OF OUR HEARTS, MINDS, AND SOULS! WE NEED YOU JESUS SOOOOOO DESPERATELY!!!! The world wants to make it LOUD all around us and this happens with Movies, unflled music that is seriously just empty…yet their message rings out loudly to capture the brokem and suck them into anger, depression and selfishness. FB is a fabricated world that I believe does more harm then help. The *nemy is very sneaky and knows how to play upon our emotional needs as women even with the need to feel involved, wanted and “in the in.” Not only FB, but much of what is offered to us in society’s overload (TV, Commercials, Advertisements, signs, free samples…is against the character and love of God. He says,” Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians 4:8. I will end with this as well from Proverbs 4:23 “Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.” Such challenging words to NOT conform to the pattern of this word. Let’s ask God what the “PATTERN” of this world is? And let’s not conform to it any longer! We must live radcically for JESUS!!!!

  4. I love the examples of Jesus being IN the world and not OF it. He was a part of the fishermen, tax collectors, prostitutes, destitute, and poor. He was the light in the dark places, the healer of the broken, and associated with the lowest of the low according to the worldly standards. We need to be careful that we can live in a holy way, without the fear of the world creeping into our lives. I believe if we fill our cup to the brim, that we will overflow to the world in a loving and inspirational way. If we go to the world with an empty mind, heart, and soul, we will fill ourselves with whatever wind the world has brought our way. Unfortunately living IN the world means being around things that we ourselves may not agree with, but as a light and example of how to act accordingly to scripture and a spirit-filled life. While facebook is probably not a necessary place to be, I believe we are called again to be IN the world but not of it. Facebook can be a place that folks look to us as a sweet flavor in a place that can be full of sour grapes. Lets use it to be a new wineskin and bring a wave of change to our sphere of influence.

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