Knowing Him

Purpose in Pain

My heart is so heavy.

This past month, a mother lost her son..

an adult son lost his father..

a mother of two young boys lost their husband and father.

These are all people who I am close to. It seems like each way I turn, people I care about are being surrounded by giants of heartache, loss, sorrow and suffering. I wish I had the power to slay them all and bury them in the field of forgottenness, leaving only the joy of happy memories.

But I know that there is a purpose in pain.

The trials, heartaches, sorrow in this life are inevitable; there is no escaping the torrent of their coming. Yet, I have to remember that there is a reason and meaning that many times can not be seen through the clouds of present grieving.

Pain and sorrow are among the instruments the Lord uses to shape us into the image of His son. To etch righteousness, faith, compassion, mercy, endurance, love and perfection into our character. I believe, that instead of viewing our grief as an enemy, the Lord would have us embrace it. To consider it a refining companion.

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance.  And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. (James 1:2-4)

I know this is so much easier said than done..I KNOW!! And I know that it’s easy for me to say this now because I am not the one standing in grief’s presence.

If you are one who is standing in this place, among these thick clouds – I wish with all my heart I could in some way comfort you. The only way I know how to do that is with His word. So that’s what I will leave with..

Isaiah 41:10  “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Isaiah 43:2  “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you.  When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”

Psalm 18:28  “You, Lord, keep my lamp burning; my God turns my darkness into light.”

Psalm 23:4  “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”

Psalm 34:18  “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Romans 8:18  “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”

2 Corinthians 1:3-4  “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.”

Revelation 21:4  “ ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

17 thoughts on “Purpose in Pain

  1. Powerful words that spoke right to my heart. Thank you for writing such impactful words that many times are hard to read. As a mom who’s lost a child, I definitely have realized there is purpose in pain. It just takes trust in Him and eventually we will see. Blessings to you!

    1. Oh ..I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing this with me!! Our God is SO good! I’m so thankful you have found comfort through your trust in Him. Blessings and hugs to you!

    1. ((((hug)))) I was with my friend when she received the news about her son. This level of grief was the highest I’ve ever seen displayed. I can not imagine..a mother should never have to lose a child. I have encountered a degree of pain and trial, and the only real and true comfort I have found is in the outstretched, loving arms of my savior.

      I am so very sorry about your loss. ❤

  2. I am one of those that are in this valley of grief and surrounded by the darkness. What you say is true, whenever I felt I had nowhere to turn or felt all alone, it has been God’s word that brought comfort, God’s presence that brings me strength to face each new day and when I could not pray, it was the prayers of others that lifted me up. Most especially it was my friends and family that did not know the depth of my grief yet they took some of my pain upon themselves if only for a moment to ease some of my pain. I pray that the verses you shared bring hope into the grief stricken that have lost their way. God is using you in mighty ways. Blessings!

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and your pain. I love how you brought out the importance of our relationships within His body. So often it is the love, care and prayers of others that the Lord uses to lift us up. Blessings to you…and thank you for your encouragement.

      1. Megan, we will always have encouragement as long as we are surrounded by God’s servants as yourself. God bless you!

  3. Thank you for this blog post! These scriptures have been a focal point for me this year as well. Your post is excellent and and a great reminder.

    I would like to offer an additional comment, please forgive me if this is not as “flowery” as other commentary, but I believe it is a good perspective to remember as well.

    One thing i have learned is that an individuals pain they are currently in is not to be compared to another’s, it is their deep valley experience. When i hear of others hurting my heart breaks for them and i recognize how agonizing it can be.

    When sharing my struggles there have been so many occasions where someones response is, “well that’s not good, BUT here’s what I am dealing with..” This dismissing and self centered attitude that runs so deep in our society, including within our churches, can cause so much more damage than help.

    Meghan, our heartfelt sorrow for those hurting around you is evident, and something I hope more of us can dispense in our daily lives. Pointing to scripture to those in pain is by far the best comfort we can provide… comfort in the arms of our loving father above.

    1. Thank you SO much for sharing this important truth! We should never dictate to another person how they are to grieve as it is a very personal thing. This is actually something I thought afterwards that I wished I had included in my original post. I would say the one common and beautiful component in Christian grief is that we can do it with hope!! Thank you again for sharing this wisdom. Blessings to you. 🙂

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