“I just wish my husband would find me attractive!!”
I recently read these words from a friend. Afterwards I thought to myself… “I know that feeling”. Although for me, this desire is not produced from the actions of my husband…it’s the fruit of my own insecurities – so I can relate. It’s not a fun web of emotions to be stuck in.
As wives we all want our husbands to find us attractive, right?!?
Here are a couple things I believe we can do to help accomplish this:
#1 Pray for our husbands daily!
We live in a culture which relentlessly attempts to poison the minds of our husbands with false realities of beauty and feminism. Many of them, I would conclude, aren’t even aware of the effects this has on their perception.
Pray he guards his heart
Pray he guards his mind
Pray for protection from temptation
Pray he walks in the Spirit and does not indulge the flesh
Pray for his purity
Pray he learns to love you as Christ loves his church
#2 Maintain a submissive, chaste (pure, modest) and respectful behavior.
Not only do we desire his attraction, but even more we long to capture his heart. (When I say ‘heart’ I mean his mind, will and emotions.) We want to be cherished and adored by him.
“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.” (1 Peter 3:1-2)
God-fearing or not, the conduct of a wife holds much persuasion over what the eyes of her husband perceive about her.
**If you cringe at the idea of ‘submissive wife’, I would suggest you have been deceived by our society’s definition of submission. I encourage you to search for truth in the scriptures (James 4:7; 1 Peter 5:6; Ephesians 5:33; Ephesians 5:21-28; Ephesians 6:5-9).**
A couple days ago, my husband and I were watching The Case For A Creator in which Lee Strobel (author of The Case For Christ) shared about his passage from faith in Darwin’s theory of evolution to faith in Christ. I couldn’t find his exact quote from this movie, but I was able to find a similar comment here.
Here is what he says..
“How did I become a Christian? My wife’s conversion to Christianity (which deeply troubled me at first) resulted in a lot of positive changes in her attitudes and behavior, which I found winsome and intriguing. She invited me to a church, where I heard the Gospel explained in a way I could understand it.”
– Lee Strobel
It was the conduct and character of his wife that led him to Christ!
My husband already knows and loves the Lord. Yet, as his wife I hope and pray that my conduct continually points in the direction leading to Him. If his gaze is fixed on Christ, it will also be fixed on me.